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All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsion, habit, reason passion and desire.


Aristotle-

                                                                     


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Fear Is The Only Thing We Should Fear



 

 By: Nicholas Bronkall


 
       What is fear? Well, according to Wikipedia, “fear is a distressing negative sensation induced by a perceived threat. It’s a basic survival mechanism…In short, fear is the ability to recognize danger leading to an urge to confront it or flee from it…” That last part is our fight or flight response, which deals with the sympathetic nervous system, and isn’t what this article will be about. My knowledge on the physiology of this topic is limited. What I’m more interested in exploring is fear from a mental perspective.

Our Fears

Ask anybody—most of us have fears whether we want to admit it or not. Fear of failure, fear of being hurt, fear of being alone, fear of heights, fear of snakes, fear of water, fear of spiders—the list is endless. I’ll focus more on the fear of failure and being hurt or being alone. Fear to me seems more like a big what if. What if I fail? What if I get hurt? What if I’m alone? These appear more like chains that are holding you back from living the life you were meant to live. But these are “what ifs.” Life isn’t meant to be lived in such a manner. Living in fear is almost like a safety net or an excuse for not doing something. So what if you fail? So what if you get hurt? It’s life. It happens to all of us.

Don’t burden yourself with fears. These fears aren’t valid nor pertinent to your life. What is there to fear? Answer me that question. If you get hurt, you get hurt. Take everything you can from that situation, learn from it, and move forward. Life isn’t that easy, but we, as human beings, seem to over complicate it with our minds. I think we just answered our question. Fear is a part of our minds. Well, then your mind is a coward because a coward has no substance just like your fear. Something without any substance is empty and hollow. You need to become aware of your fear, but your fear is preventing you from becoming aware of it. Stay with me. Your fear is preventing you from increased awareness of your own self-being. Your mind and your fear are your prison. Your mind is the mountain before you. Awareness will allow you to break free from this prison and allow you to climb that mountain. The greatest discovery in your life will be your own self-awareness. If you aren’t aware of yourself, you will live in constant fear of life, creating new fears for yourself. Fear is distracting you. It’ creating confusion in that head of yours. Trust yourself, and trust your gut. Don’t live in fear. Fear is negativity in oneself. When you have fear, face it and overcome it.

Be Honest With Yourself

In some people’s lives, fear controls their life. It takes their energy away from what’s essential and moves it toward the nonessential. So in order to take a deeper look at the fear we live with, we need to have a better understanding of our self and do a self-evaluation. Go ahead—look in the mirror and ask yourself, “What do I see?” You can fool everybody around you, but you can’t fool yourself. Be honest with yourself. Being honest with yourself is a big step in growing up and in finding out who you really are.

It’s simple. It really is. Don’t waste your time and energy worrying about what ifs and the fears. Instead, concentrate on yourself and what you can do. By doing so, you gain such a huge advantage in life. No one is perfect; we all have faults. The only losers in life are those who refuse to admit those faults. But before you can face your fear, you must recognize it. Fear is a weakness, so before you can correct your weakness, you need to recognize it. Find out what’s causing that fear. If you aren’t open-minded enough and lie to yourself, you’ll never face it. Don’t let your fears and what you can’t do stop you from doing something you can do.

Challenges

No matter how hard life gets or how dark things get, everything in your life happens for a reason. Life is either challenging you or testing you. Dig deep inside and find an answer. Face your challenge, and face your fear. Find an answer. By doing so, you will prevail every time. Don’t hide. Don’t hide from life. That’s cowardly. Believe in you, believe in yourself, and don’t quit on yourself. We have all gone through good times and bad times, but look back at these experiences and really look hard at them. How you handled those experiences is what shaped you into the person you are today. Without those bad times and good times, you wouldn’t be who you are.

It comes down to this—if you believe in your fears, if you believe in your weaknesses, and if you expect the worst, that is what you will get. If you’re afraid of being hurt, you will get hurt. If you’re afraid of failing, you will fail. If you expect the worst, you will get the worst. So expect the best and you’ll get it. Believe in yourself and your choices 100 percent. If you expect to lose in life, you already have.

In every situation in life, there are two possible ways to look at things—in a negative way or in a positive way. Losers are negative and cowards are negative. You will hear these kinds of people say that others got lucky. But a winner, a positive person, refuses to look at life’s trials and tribulations as problems. They are just temporary setbacks. Don’t be influenced by negative people. Over your entire life, you will have doubters saying that you can’t do things. It’s easy to be negative. It’s a cop out for living life. Look for the best in everybody and everything. I promise that it’s there no matter how bad it is.

Just like the old saying “like attracts like,” if you’re positive and don’t live in fear, you will attract other like minded people. Now it won’t happen overnight, but if you stay the course, it will happen. Positive energy attracts positive energy. Your fears are negative energy. When you become afraid and live in fear, you fail to reach your full potential. You fail to reach who you are truly meant to be. You play it safe. Look at everything as a valuable learning experience, a chance to face your fear, a chance to discover your weaknesses and make them your strengths.

Don’t Live In Fear

I know I have veered off topic, but it really upsets me to see people living in fear, not being able to have fun and enjoy life to its fullest. I understand that everyone’s circumstances are different, but, on a day to day basis, I encounter so many people with so much potential, so many gifts, so many talents waiting to be shared and they just hide, hide behind their fears like a coward. Wake up! This is life. Have fun. It’s meant to be shared. So stop wasting your energy on the nonessential and focus on what is essential instead.

“Falling into the deepest valley is nothing to fear. It just means that you are in the perfect position to climb the world’s highest mountain.” — Carl F. Hughes

I want to give a special thanks to my friend, Smalls, who helped inspire this article and provided the name for it. And a thank you to you, the reader.

 



                                   


       Cravings: Why They Strike, How To Curb Them

 

 

 

By: Katherine Kam


      Almost everyone has hankered after potato chips, ice cream, chocolate, or another beckoning treat. But why? And what do you do when a craving calls your name? Is it OK to give in once in a while? What if your cravings start to run amok and demand satisfaction every day?

Food Cravings From the Inside Out

Cornell professor Brian Wansink, PhD, makes it his business to understand food cravings. He’s studied a woman who loved to cuddle up with her favorite snack: a bowl of popcorn mixed with M&Ms. He knows why hearty men crave steaks and pizza, while women usually go for candy or cookies.

Insight into cravings is important because our environment is loaded with sensory cues that can prompt us to overeat, Wansink says. He directs Cornell University’s Food and Brand Lab, which studies consumers’ relationships with food. (The lab’s motto: “We uncover eating traps and change them.”) He also wrote the book, Mindless Eating: Why We Eat More Than We Think.

Visual cues — such as seeing enticing foods — are the most frequent environmental triggers. Smells are potent, too. For instance, “You walk by a Cinnabon,” Wansink says, and the rich, sweet aroma can automatically trip a strong desire for the cinnamon rolls.

Don’t Blame Nutrition

One popular myth holds that people crave certain foods to fill a nutritional deficiency.

“The naive view has always been that cravings represent wisdom of the body,” says Marcia Pelchat, PhD, a food researcher at the Monell Chemical Senses Center in Philadelphia.

But it’s not so. Some of her work has shown that people have cravings even when they’re fed a diet that’s completely adequate in calories and nutrients.

“People will often say things, like, ‘Gee, I’m craving potato chips. I’d better eat some because I must need the salt,’” Pelchat says. “But really, how many of us — aside from runners in hot weather — are deficient in salt? And then how do you explain cravings for sweets in terms of deficiency?”

We feel virtuous blaming cravings on nutritional needs, Pelchat says. But “we don’t have such great wisdom of the body,” she says. “Unfortunately, humans rely less on instincts and more on culture to determine what they eat — or on individual experience.” (In her city, for example, a lot of men crave Philly cheese steaks.)

Culture, Sex, and Cravings

Wansink agrees that culture and gender play a big role in cravings. In his research, men were more likely to crave pizza, pasta, and soup over cakes and cookies. Why? Besides being tasty and filling, such hot, savory foods reminded them of attention from their mothers or wives.

In contrast, women liked these foods well enough, but associated them with work, including preparation and cleanup. So instead, women tended to crave hassle-free snack foods, such as candy, cookies, ice cream, and chocolate.

What about that woman who liked popcorn mixed with M&M’s? Not only was the snack easy to prepare, but it made her feel “cozy and safe,” Wansink says. She and her husband had made it as a “secret snack” when they were dating in college; hence, the positive association turned it into her favorite craving.

Almost everyone has hankered after potato chips, ice cream, chocolate, or another beckoning treat. But why? And what do you do when a craving calls your name?

Is it OK to give in once in a while? What if your cravings start to run amok and demand satisfaction every day?

Good Mood, Bad Mood

Certain emotions, including stress, sadness, and boredom, can promote cravings, Pelchat says. “That’s another very strong correlate of cravings. A bad mood can become a conditioned cue for eating. Just like walking by the donut shop, being in a bad mood becomes a cue that elicits going over to the refrigerator.”

Those negative moods get all the press, but Wansink suggests that happy moods might be even more likely to cause cravings. In his survey of about 1,000 Americans, 86% reported that they craved comfort foods when they were happy, and 74% had cravings when they wanted to celebrate or reward themselves. In contrast, 52% had cravings when they were bored and 39% when they were sad or lonely.

The happy eaters craved food to maintain their upbeat mood, he explains: “I want to do something to extend my happy feeling or my happy experience.” Furthermore, they tended to prefer “more meal-like, healthier foods,” he says. In contrast, people in sad moods were much more likely to seek out ice cream, cookies, or potato chips.

You also learn to crave certain foods in certain situations. “If you have a cookie every day after school, just walking into the house cues you to have a cookie,” Pelchat says. “If you don’t get that cookie right away, your mind obsesses about it and turns it into a craving.”

Taming Your Cravings

So you want to put your cravings back in their place. What should you do?

Don’t waste your time on bizarre methods. They don’t work for most people. For example, some models deal with cravings for sweets by taking one bite from a candy bar and spitting it out, or carrying a candy wrapper to sniff, Wansink writes in his book.

Here are some expert tips to try instead:

Eat the Food You Crave Less Often

You may have heard that having a little bit of the food you crave is a good way to break the craving. Maybe not.

“We used to think that eating a small amount of those foods would extinguish a craving. For a long time, we thought that that was the way to deal with cravings, and it just doesn’t seem to work for most people,” Wansink says.

Rather than quitting the craving, continually eating the food may just strengthen the habit. “The more you eat sweets, the more you reinforce the cravings for sweets,” Pelchat says.

So should you go cold turkey? No, Wansink says. Feeling deprived of a favorite food often backfires and you end up eating too much. “You can indulge in it, but just do it less frequently,” he says.

Use Portion Control

“Allow yourself to have a food, but do it in a portion-controlled way,” Pelchat says. For example, don’t keep tempting foods at home, because it’s too easy to wolf down excessive amounts. Instead, go out for one scoop of ice cream or one slice of pizza.

Also, know yourself. Portion control doesn’t work for everyone, especially if tempting foods are on hand. Some people can count out and eat only 15 smoked almonds; others routinely barrel their way to the bottom of the can.

“If you can’t manage portion control, then you want to weaken the link between cues in the environment and eating that food,” Pelchat says. Hide the food in the back of a cupboard; don’t keep it on a kitchen counter or in plain sight. “If you resist, you weaken the link between cues and mindless eating,” she says.

Substitute a Healthier Food

“There’s a very fine line between eating an unhealthy food and a healthy food in terms of how it satisfies cravings,” Wansink says. “You may be dying for that chocolate sundae or whatever, but eating something that’s healthier will eliminate that craving almost as effectively.”

For instance, eating apple slices with peanut butter might satisfy your craving as much as if you really did splurge on ice cream, he says. The sense of satisfaction might not happen immediately or even five minutes later, but it will kick in 15 to 20 minutes later, he says.

Just make sure to eat an amount equal to the volume of the craved food. Otherwise, “you’re still going to be hungry,” Wansink says — and your craving will still be there, waiting for you to give in.

Distract Yourself With an Activity Unrelated to Food

“Substitute something else until the craving goes away. It could be in the form of taking a walk or doing pushups or calling a friend,” Wansink says. Cravings are fleeting, he says. They’ll diminish or go away within an hour, if not sooner.

Don’t wait out a craving passively. An activity that’s “somewhat absorbing” will help you to resist, Pelchat says. “Even counting to 10 does help,” she adds. “People are less likely to eat the craved food. It gives them more control over it.

Have a Plan to Combat Chronic Cravings

“The most dangerous cravings are the ones that are chronic. Those are going to be the most difficult ones to deal with,” Wansink says.

Let’s say that on most days, around 3 p.m., you crave a sweet or salty food — jelly donuts or a big bag of cheese puffs. “In those cases, it can’t be a piecemeal, day-by-day strategy,” he says. That’s a set-up for failure.

It’s better to have a steadfast plan. Make sure to have sugarless gum on hand, ready to pop into your mouth when the craving strikes. Or make it routine to take a walk at that time. “Habitually, you replace that craving,” Wansink says.


 


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